The Confidence Confusion

27 Jul

 I’m sitting down here today reading another headline story about a female celebrity who posted some pictures on instagram…

It’s a bathing suit picture with her rear end exposed in a thong bikini. A rear end is not much to get excited about these days! It’s hardly what I call nudity. To read some of the comments brought up an interesting subject. The message was one of confidence. People are looking at that thinking she’s trying to attract attention. Maybe she should cover up because people are just going to see her as a piece of ass. What does confidence have to do with the way we look?

Confidence reveals itself in different ways. I’m proud of my body too. I’d rather not wear revealing clothing. I think the message can be confused at times. Confidence doesn’t necessarily mean you should wear revealing clothing. I’m afraid we’re starting to associate body confidence with having to reveal our body. Is that the message we really want to send to our young girls? I know the intent is to teach self love. What if that girl is like me and doesn’t want to reveal herself like that?

Why are we portraying confidence as just a body issue?

Once again we are back at the same issue. Women are being judged by their looks. Confidence is being equated to only loving your body. Aren’t we more than our bodies? Why are we taking pictures of ourselves in bikinis and showing it off to the world? I think it’s wonderful to feel comfortable in your skin. We are more than what we look like. We can do more than just love our bodies. We can love our mind. We can love our character. We can love our skills and talents. Loving yourself in a bikini is part of the equation. You need to love yourself whenever and wherever you go.

The way you look is part of the whole. I think its one small part of a much bigger picture. Loving your body is one thing. I encourage you to think beyond your body. Self confidence is more than just the image you see in the mirror.


Bad Habits Affect Your Kids

13 Jul

I couldn’t believe it!  Only 34 Minutes a day?!

A study conducted in Britain by the Highland Spring Group noted “the average family gets just 34 minutes a day together ‘undistracted’ – time where they feel they actually bond together and catch up without gadgets or routines getting in the way” Maybe this sounds like your family? We are the most “connected” we’ve ever been with technology. Yet we are the most disconnected from each other than we’ve ever been. This can have an effect on your child’s mental and physical wellbeing.

Mental Health

I read an article posted by Carmen Chai on the Global news website. A study conducted by Columbia University wanted to look at depression rates in youths aged 12-17. “Cases of major depression climbed from 8.7 per cent in 2005 to 11.3 per cent in 2014 – a 37 per cent increase.” The CMHA also noted that “five per cent of young men and 12 per cent of young women between 12 and 19 have experienced severe depression.

Physical Health

Based on Statistics Canada in 2017, 30% of kids aged 5-17 are overweight or obese. Diabetes Canada says “the rate of diabetes in children all over the world has increased in the past twenty years.” We all know kids are spending way too much time on the computer. I don’t think any further statistics are necessary here.

The time you’re not spending with your child matters. It has a distinct effect on their mental and physical wel lbeing. Engaging in positive activity with your children can therefore have a positive effect on their mental and physical wellbeing. That’s the message here. Thirty four minutes a day is not enough.

If we seek to change these unhealthy habits we first change our own.

Make that change if only for those around you.